Surviving your kid’s teen years is a problematic period for almost any parent. However, it does not mean that you cannot be prepared for it. Most forget their teenage years and what they have done to their parents, which is why whenever you need to forbid something, stop and re-think your choices.
We have all gone through it, and most would like to forget it, but entering puberty is a game changer not only for parents, but for teenagers as well. One thing most parents should understand is that their little angel is changing, and there is nothing they can do about it. The more they fight to keep things as they were, the more it will be harder to keep up good communication with their children.
Do not forget you were a Kid Once
Whenever you get into an argument with your teen, do not exert your authority bluntly, they are not little children anymore, they can now understand why you do certain things. If you take a minute to explain in detail why you are not allowing something, it will be possible that they will understand it as well. On the other hand, before you say no to something, make sure to put yourself in your teen’s place, so that you can assess the situation from their point of view as well.
Try to Communicate
The key to surviving teenagers is that you do not push each other away, rather you work on communication and make sure that you rarely fight. And even when in a heated argument, try to avoid giving ultimatums because it will lead to more conflict. Instead, try to give a helping hand and approach the problem together, so that you can find a solution with your teen. This feeling of achievement will boost their self-confidence, and they will be freer to ask you for advice.
Time to Learn to Drive
As soon as your teen hits sixteen, it will be time to sit behind the wheel and to learn how to drive. And, if you practice with them, and of course send them to take safer drive courses, you will have nothing to worry about. Though, make sure that you do not pressure them into doing it, and that no matter what happens, you should have their back. And, when you are driving with them, be sure not to yell or scare them in any way, as learning to drive is stressful enough as it is.
Giving them Some Room
Long gone are the days when you could just walk into your kid’s room and see what they are up to. Now, you will have to pay special attention to respect their privacy, and unless you are careful, it could turn into another row with them. But, never back down on your words, and make sure that you are the boss, meaning that they can have privacy but only if they show you can trust them. Do not expect an easy ride on this one, and be sure to be fair with them.
Teenagers are mostly scared because they do not know what is going on around them, and unless you offer them a helping hand in getting back on the right path, things could get ugly real fast. Try to conserve your patience, and make sure to listen to them, so that you can figure out how to handle situations together. Never scold them without reason, and make sure to give fair punishment and praise as well, teach them how the world works around them.